Ask us anything part 3

[jeffmathers]

Well, I'm specifically thinking about reviews in which the provider looks like her photos.. Like for instance if someone is not curvy and doesn't have big boobs or a big butt, that's pretty easy to see. Why complain about it in a review?

On ne devrait pas manquer de respect aux travailleuses. C'est absurd de voir des gens s'indigner de l'impossibilité de répondre à leurs attentes. J'connais des travailleuses du sexe de grande taille qui disent avoir reçu de mauvaises critiques en disant « Elle était trop tall», alors qu'elle avait indiqué sa taille dans l'annonce et que le client lui avait demandé de porter des heels.

J' crois q beaucoup de gens sont misogynes et/ou amers d'avoir été rejetés par une personne physiquement attirante par le passé, et que c'est la seule façon pour eux de satisfaire leur ego blessé. J'aimerais q les travailleurs de tous les secteurs soient traités avec respect et humanité. Pourtant, nombreux sont ceux qui prennent plaisir à insulter les travailleurs.

 

[LC18]

Do you play music or a playlist to set the mood? Candles? Rose petals?

Music: always
Candles: sometimes
Flower petals: never

 

[LC18]

[Clients]

Please help me understand your logic.
A) Why do clients assume that we must see men from dawn til dusk? Then insist on being the first of that fantasy fuck-o-thon

It would be absolutely insane physically. You wouldn’t be able to sustain that lifestyle for a long period of time

B) Why do clients think that if you have free time, you’re not making money?
Bringing us back to point A, we should be fucking all day otherwise we’re broke

As if we can’t be booked for a 48 hours date with a client and not have to work for the rest of the month

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Do you play music or a playlist to set the mood? Candles? Rose petals?

Music yes, candles yes, rose petals would be messy..

 

[Lunaseraphim]

[Clients]

Please help me understand your logic.
A) Why do clients assume that we must see men from dawn til dusk? Then insist on being the first of that fantasy fuck-o-thon

It would be absolutely insane physically. You wouldn’t be able to sustain that lifestyle for a long period of time

B) Why do clients think that if you have free time, you’re not making money?
Bringing us back to point A, we should be fucking all day otherwise we’re broke

As if we can’t be booked for a 48 hours date with a client and not have to work for the rest of the month

Yes this is something I find kinda confusing because these assumptions lead to weird situations... One thing I find really mind boggling is how some clients think indy providers don't get business

 

[LeDodo]

[Clients]

Please help me understand your logic.
A) Why do clients assume that we must see men from dawn til dusk? Then insist on being the first of that fantasy fuck-o-thon

It would be absolutely insane physically. You wouldn’t be able to sustain that lifestyle for a long period of time

B) Why do clients think that if you have free time, you’re not making money?
Bringing us back to point A, we should be fucking all day otherwise we’re broke

As if we can’t be booked for a 48 hours date with a client and not have to work for the rest of the month

Maybe because for most of the people, working is from 9 to 5 and you're continuously working during working hours. Same goes for the free time, by assuming that if you're not working you're not earning money.

However I think the fact that they are not aware of the financials behind make them having those quick logic.

I guess that this logic fades when you understand that SP hourly rate is way higher than your 9/5 hence you have more "free time", you don't have a boss so you decide when to work or not. But everyone's financial burden, needs or goals are different so is the free time we have at the end of the day.

 

[LC18]

Maybe because for most of the people, working is from 9 to 5 and you're continuously working during working hours. Same goes for the free time, by assuming that if you're not working you're not earning money.

However I think the fact that they are not aware of the financials behind make them having those quick logic.

I guess that this logic fades when you understand that SP hourly rate is way higher than your 9/5 hence you have more "free time", you don't have a boss so you decide when to work or not. But everyone's financial burden, needs or goals are different so is the free time we have at the end of the day.

I like how you think and to be honest this makes so much sense. That 9 to 5 comparison is great

Edit: I think it’s often coming from men booking 30-60 mins date and thinking every other men does the same. They can’t imagine that someone would want to spend more time with one of us so they think that to make money we have to see 10 men for 30 mins each

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Edit: I think it’s often coming from men booking 30-60 mins date and thinking every other men does the same. They can’t imagine that someone would want to spend more time with one of us so they think that to make money we have to see 10 men for 30 mins each

That is so true. Some can't believe other clients really pay just to "eat" or "sleep" with us. They don’t realize what they’re missing during those long dates...

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Edit: I think it’s often coming from men booking 30-60 mins date and thinking every other men does the same. They can’t imagine that someone would want to spend more time with one of us so they think that to make money we have to see 10 men for 30 mins each

Yes I think that's it. Some men can't imagine that someone would book more than 30 or 45 minutes because that's what they always book.

It's rare that I get bookings under an hour nowadays, but when I do, I try to see more than one client admittedly because it's a pain to go to my incall (which is almost an hour away from my place by public transit), clean, get ready etc just for 30 minutes even if I understand some people don't have time for more and I want affordable options for everyone

That is so true. Some can't believe other clients really pay just to "eat" or "sleep" with. They don’t realize what they’re missing during those long dates...

I agree. The most fun bookings are longer than an hour. The 2-3-4 hour bookings, the dinner dates, etc. Not just for us but for the clients because the connection becomes deeper

 

[LC18]

I’m not interested in 30, 60 mins options anymore. Maybe I’m getting older (merb doesn’t like women that aren’t fresh out of high school)* but I don’t have the energy for those.

Like you Luna, I don’t live in my incall so I have to physically get there. I share it with other people so I have to set the space and mood. It’s a lot just to host for 30 mins.

It’s also not pleasant to be with someone for such a short period, I feel rushed. “I can’t talk too much or he will feel robbed”

I’ve removed all options under 90 mins including massages, I feel a lot lighter and excited about the upcoming dates

 

[Rebaynia]

Do you play music or a playlist to set the mood? Candles? Rose petals?

I'm outcall, their house, so it is often up to them if they wish to set up a mood. It adds the the atmosphere for sure.

 

[Rebaynia]

As if we can’t be booked for a 48 hours date with a client and not have to work for the rest of the month

Not to mention, as much fun as it can be on here, or on other social media sites, being out there and socializing, being present, and networking, is part of the job. I avoided and found social media, a major social drain for me before, now I have to maintain and keep up on sites I have been spending years either avoiding, or checking minimaly, to now have to try and keep up a regular presence.

On my own time I am an introvert, and have had to be social, even when all I want to do is avoid that there is an outside world that exists. Before becomeing an SP, I was happy to brag the silence of my phone, now in just a week there are so many contacts, I need to search people to find them, otherwise I could get lost in the scrolling.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I’m not interested in 30, 60 mins options anymore. Maybe I’m getting older (merb doesn’t like women that aren’t fresh out of high school)* but I don’t have the energy for those.

Like you Luna, I don’t live in my incall so I have to physically get there. I share it with other people so I have to set the space and mood. It’s a lot just to host for 30 mins.

It’s also not pleasant to be with someone for such a short period, I feel rushed. “I can’t talk too much or he will feel robbed”

I’ve removed all options under 90 mins including massages, I feel a lot lighter and excited about the upcoming dates

I'm totally fine with hourly sessions personally, but otherwise I'm starting to feel the same way as you. I've been considering removing my HH and 45 minute options because I'm nervous about the same things you are mentioning, every time. I have seen some lovely gentlemen who booked me for HH and 45 minute sessions so please don't get me wrong. But how I feel has changed, when I had lower rates & received from home, and when I worked at a spa, the expectations seemed much lower.

I think when people book a certain amount of time they have to understand what they are going out of it. If you book a HH yes you will be rushed, it's a quickie. Unless I have schedule constraints I am not what people here call a ''clock watcher''.. But I'm much more likely to spend a little bit of extra time with someone if they book over an hour. Otherwise if you are booking a half hour, it's a half hour. Same thing with 45 minutes it's not a way to get a full hour and pay less..

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

Do you play music or a playlist to set the mood? Candles? Rose petals?

I always put music! I like creating an ambiance for my lovers As for candles and rose petals, I never used them by lack of interest but I would highly appreciate the effort

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I always put music! I like creating an ambiance for my lovers As for candles and rose petals, I never used them by lack of interest but I would highly appreciate the effort

Dream date : arriving at a hotel with a hot tub and nice music, with snacks and champagne and rose petals on the bedsheets

 

[Enjoying life]

Honestly if the SP's you're booking say ''I can't even walk anymore'' that is not a good sign............ Booking a longer session will not solve the problem. We are not sex dolls or machines.. Some of us can handle more than others however, but if this is a pattern, if I was at your place, I would question myself.

I don't think what you're looking for is a GFE session. Maybe look for someone who offers PSE and clarify that you are going to want to have sex for the whole booking. Some SP will accept, some will not. The idea of booking a duo is good too

I had the best GFE session to the max and she told me we have a great connection and she would be available even if she is not scheduled! Some amazing gems out there!

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I had the best GFE session to the max and she told me we have a great connection and she would be available even if she is not scheduled! Some amazing gems out there!

Can you explain what is the connection between what you just said and my comment that you're quoting here?

 

[Alucard87]

Ya A gfe session

You sure it wasn't just a line or two to rope you in as a regular? What were the differences between her and all the other GFE experiences I imagine you've had?

 

[Enjoying life]

I had the best GFE session to the max and she told me we have a great connection and she would be available even if she is not scheduled! Some amazing gems out there!

Meaning that I had a really satisfying session with amazing conversations as I have a wide range of interests as my sp mentioned other clients do not and just want to jump right in the action

 

[Enjoying life]

You sure it wasn't just a line or two to rope you in as a regular? What were the differences between her and all the other GFE experiences I imagine you've had?

Well I appreciate hot making out which really makes a difference as others do light or nothing! She was extremely wet where others were not as much! She was also in her 40s which makes a difference! I m an artist and have been in some books so I can see why she told me I am different as I worked hard