this is why over the years i have become more of a lone wolf and only have a handful of friends.I feel you!
But I do think that what is happening here is that you aren't a self-centered twat.
And when you aren't a self-centered twat, it is a hard realization that a vast majority of people actually are self-centered twats... certainly not just women. Easily 9 out of 10 people are self-centered twats...
Welcome to the non-self-centered twat minority!