Outcall to your home : a few questions

[Tempbond]

Hi there !

I've always done incalls (agency and independents), but something lately is messing me up and I can't seem to be relaxed enough to enjoy myself fully. I'm thinking of trying outcalls to my house, so that way I'll be in a familiar surrounding and that might help things along...

Now I live on the western north shore (near St-Eustache) and I've texted one of the outcall agencies that advertises on Merb and they said that it would be 40$ for transport, which I find is reasonable, so that's not a problem. I never thought of doing outcall to my house before that, I thought I lived too far for anyone to want to come here. Now I do have a few questions about how things go for this kind of encounter. Please bear in mind that I'm on the spectrum and that as such, my concerns might seem a bit weird or unfounded, but that's just how I am, can't help it...


- Is there a driver or does the girl come alone ? My house is in a rond-point / cul-de-sac of about only 10 houses and I would worry about my neighbors seeing someone in their car parked in my driveway for an hour... we know everyone's car and it wouldn't go unnoticed. Not a big problem, but still, I'm curious.

- How do you guys prepare your house for the girl's visit, besides clean sheets, clean bathroom, clean house, having towels, wash cloth and other hygiene products ready for after (or before ? Is that a thing ?). Anything I'm missing ? Offering a refreshment ?

- Are you expected to have fun only in a bedroom or could we do that in the living room, kitchen...

- Anything I can (or must) do to make the girl comfortable when she walks in the door or afterwards ? If I put myself in the girl's shoes, I'd always be a little anxious of what was waiting for me in the client's home, so I'd like to make that as non stressful for her as possible.

- Ok, maybe a weird one... I know you have trust the person up to a point, but they're still a stranger in your home. We she goes to the bathroom to do whatever she needs to do to get prepared or to shower afterwards, how do you handle your stuff being there behind a closed door, as in medications and such ?

Any help would be greatly appreciated and if you have suggestions about a good agency to deal with for outcalls and/or a particular independent outcall SP that's sweet, kind and affectionate, that would also be welcomed !

Thank you !

 

[AnthonyAnderson]

- Is there a driver or does the girl come alone ? My house is in a rond-point / cul-de-sac of about only 10 houses and I would worry about my neighbors seeing someone in their car parked in my driveway for an hour... we know everyone's car and it wouldn't go unnoticed. Not a big problem, but still, I'm curious

Most cases there's a driver (car won't stay). Minority of cases: she will drive her own car and park.

How do you guys prepare your house for the girl's visit, besides clean sheets, clean bathroom, clean house, having towels, wash cloth and other hygiene products ready for after (or before ? Is that a thing ?). Anything I'm missing ? Offering a refreshment ?

All of the above. You can offer her a glass of water. Fill it in front of her. A professional escort won't accept an already-prepared beverage as a precaution for her own safety.

- Ok, maybe a weird one... I know you have trust the person up to a point, but they're still a stranger in your home. We she goes to the bathroom to do whatever she needs to do to get prepared or to shower afterwards, how do you handle your stuff being there behind a closed door, as in medications and such ?

Not a weird one, don't worry
You need to remove what you don't want her to see beforehand and place it where she won't have access (e.g. in a kitchen cabinet)

Anything I can (or must) do to make the girl comfortable when she walks in the door or afterwards ? If I put myself in the girl's shoes, I'd always be a little anxious of what was waiting for me in the client's home, so I'd like to make that as non stressful for her as possible.

Leave her just enough space when she arrives, while still being welcoming. Offer to hang her coat. A bit of small talk. Showing her your place.

You seem to be on the right track!

 

[Tempbond]

Most cases there's a driver (car won't stay). Minority of cases: she will drive her own car and park.

All of the above. You can offer her a glass of water. Fill it in front of her. A professional escort won't accept an already-prepared beverage as a precaution for her own safety.

Not a weird one, don't worry
You need to remove what you don't want her to see beforehand and place it where she won't have access (e.g. in a kitchen cabinet)

Leave her just enough space when she arrives, while still being welcoming. Offer to hang her coat. A bit of small talk. Showing her your place.

You seem to be on the right track!

Thank you, very kind of you !

 

[Fradi]

First I think it is all about trust.
I would not invite a lady to my home that I did not know for quite some time.
The ladies I see at my home I have known for many years and I consider them to be friends not just escorts.
I don’t always see them at my home sometimes at their incall location.
I don’t deal with agencies only Indies.

Paying their transportation is reasonable and is to be expected. The 2 ladies I see sometimes at my home I usually pick up at their place and drive them to mine and then home afterwards. I enjoy their company and for sure they are always safe with me.

My home is usually clean but when I know they will be visiting I make sure I do an extra effort the day before.
The bathroom, clean towels, fresh sheets it is just a sign of respect for them.

Activities are not restricted to the bedroom it depends on how things work out, sometimes it is hard to get past the hallway.

I usually have wine, cheese, pastries, cakes, shrimp, chocolates, they are also welcome to take any of it home afterwards, things I try to have that I know they like and if they have the time after they have a standing invitation for lunch or dinner anywhere they want as friends.

There is no question that I trust these ladies and I don’t put anything away or hide things but if you are inviting someone you hardly know it is certainly something to consider.

 

[Tempbond]

First I think it is all about trust.
I would not invite a lady to my home that I did not know for quite some time.
The ladies I see at my home I have known for many years and I consider them to be friends not just escorts.
I don’t always see them at my home sometimes at their incall location.
I don’t deal with agencies only Indies.

Paying their transportation is reasonable and is to be expected. The 2 ladies I see sometimes at my home I usually pick up at their place and drive them to mine and then home afterwards. I enjoy their company and for sure they are always safe with me.

My home is usually clean but when I know they will be visiting I make sure I do an extra effort the day before.
The bathroom, clean towels, fresh sheets it is just a sign of respect for them.

Activities are not restricted to the bedroom it depends on how things work out, sometimes it is hard to get past the hallway.

I usually have wine, cheese, pastries, cakes, shrimp, chocolates, they are also welcome to take any of it home afterwards, things I try to have that I know they like and if they have the time after they have a standing invitation for lunch or dinner anywhere they want as friends.

There is no question that I trust these ladies and I don’t put anything away or hide things but if you are inviting someone you hardly know it is certainly something to consider.

Thank you Frady, that sounds like a really nice time. Unfortunately, I don't know anyone that well to have that kind of experience. I've seen the same indy 3 times in the past year and I would have no problem for her to come to my house (she's such a nice person, I would date her !), but sadly she only does incalls.

 

[EagerBeaver]

First I think it is all about trust.
I would not invite a lady to my home that I did not know for quite some time.

This reminds me of a friend of mine, someone who introduced me to Seeking Arrangement. He was one of the very active users of SA back in its early days. At that time he was divorced and living alone in a big house. He was a guy who tended to be way too trusting of others. And I think the women he met on SA sensed this.

He ended up being the victim of criminal conduct on 2 occasions. On the first, he left his laptop on and in and area of his house where it was accessible by a lady he had met on SA. He had no security locks in place and apparently he must have saved all his passwords. She was able to go on the laptop, access his bank account and make transfers on it to herself. He lost a fair amount of money but did not report the crime to authorities.

On the second occasion he was on I believe a second date with a woman he met on SA. She convinced him to allow her to bring a friend with her on the pretense that a menage a trois would happen at his house. Before they ever got to his house they robbed him. What happened was that when my friend was in the driver seat and the friend of the girl was in the back seat, she tightened a rope around his neck from behind so he couldn't move or breathe, while the other girl, who was in the passenger seat, took his wallet. The two women then fled the vehicle with his wallet which was full of the cash he had agreed to pay for the menace a trois. I think it was over $1000 they got.

My friend reported this crime to the local police department where it occurred. He told me they literally laughed him out the door. I guess they took his complaint but were laughing out loud the whole time. Everyone in the station. As he told me this story about how the police had reacted, he was livid. However I could see how the cops would be laughing about it. He was a very naive and trusting guy who got burned many times. Was also burned on business investment deals for the same reasons. Tended to believe people who were selling bridges. A very trusting soul.

 

[Tempbond]

This reminds me of a friend of mine, someone who introduced me to Seeking Arrangement. He was one of the very active users of SA back in its early days. At that time he was divorced and living alone in a big house. He was a guy who tended to be way too trusting of others. And I think the women he met on SA sensed this.

He ended up being the victim of criminal conduct on 2 occasions. On the first, he left his laptop on and in and area of his house where it was accessible by the lady. He had no security locks in place and apparently he must have saved all his passwords. She was able to go on the laptop, access his bank account and make transfers on it to herself. He lost a fair amount of money but did not report the crime to authorities.

On the second occasion he was on I believe a second date with a woman he met on SA. She convinced him to allow her to bring a friend with her on the pretense that a menage a trois would happen at his house. Before they ever got to his house they robbed him. What happened was that when my friend was in the driver seat and the friend of the girl was in the back seat, she tightened a rope around his neck from behind so he couldn't move or breathe, while the other girl, who was in the passenger seat, took his wallet. The two women then fled the vehicle with his wallet which was full of the cash he had agreed to pay for the menace a trois. I think it was over $1000 they got.

My friend reported this crime to the local police department where it occurred. He told me they literally laughed him out the door. I guess they took his complaint but were laughing out loud the whole time. Everyone in the station. As he told me this story about how the police had reacted, he was livid. However I could see how the cops would be laughing about it. He was a very naive and trusting guy who got burned many times. Was also burned on business investment deals for the same reasons. Tended to believe people who were selling bridges. A very trusting soul.

Well that didn't help at all... but thanks for chiming in I guess

 

[EagerBeaver]

Well that didn't help at all... but thanks for chiming in I guess

It's truth -take it for what it is and just be smart about what you do.

 

[Fradi]

This reminds me of a friend of mine, someone who introduced me to Seeking Arrangement. He was one of the very active users of SA back in its early days. At that time he was divorced and living alone in a big house. He was a guy who tended to be way too trusting of others. And I think the women he met on SA sensed this.

He ended up being the victim of criminal conduct on 2 occasions. On the first, he left his laptop on and in and area of his house where it was accessible by a lady he had met on SA. He had no security locks in place and apparently he must have saved all his passwords. She was able to go on the laptop, access his bank account and make transfers on it to herself. He lost a fair amount of money but did not report the crime to authorities.

On the second occasion he was on I believe a second date with a woman he met on SA. She convinced him to allow her to bring a friend with her on the pretense that a menage a trois would happen at his house. Before they ever got to his house they robbed him. What happened was that when my friend was in the driver seat and the friend of the girl was in the back seat, she tightened a rope around his neck from behind so he couldn't move or breathe, while the other girl, who was in the passenger seat, took his wallet. The two women then fled the vehicle with his wallet which was full of the cash he had agreed to pay for the menace a trois. I think it was over $1000 they got.

My friend reported this crime to the local police department where it occurred. He told me they literally laughed him out the door. I guess they took his complaint but were laughing out loud the whole time. Everyone in the station. As he told me this story about how the police had reacted, he was livid. However I could see how the cops would be laughing about it. He was a very naive and trusting guy who got burned many times. Was also burned on business investment deals for the same reasons. Tended to believe people who were selling bridges. A very trusting soul.

You have dumb ass friends.
He probably needs a lawyer often lol.

 

[EagerBeaver]

You have dumb ass friends.
He probably needs a lawyer often lol.

He is book smart, street stupid. And when he is horny little head does all the thinking

 

[Fradi]

He is book smart, street stupid.

Probably works well with the women he sees as many are street smart and life stupid.
Many SP are good at making money but have no idea how to budget, save and invest it wisely and end up struggling to meet rent at the end of each month.