Getting a pm asking details from someone who has NO post at all !

[P. Gabriel]

I got a pm asking details and questioning between 2 different massage places. Since I never heard of this nickname, I tried to see his posts in his profile to have an idea of who I was about to answer and unless I'm doing wrong, the guy has never posted. At least, this is the answer I got.

I found this pretty weird and didn't answer back. Is it me or you would do the same ?

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

I have had a couple of these, just ignore.

 

[Merlot]

Hello sir,

I found this pretty weird and didn't answer back. Is it me or you would do the same ?

There are over 68,000 members. How tough would it be to keep the board functioning if we all posted just once a month?

For me I don't see why you wouldn't provide an answer. If your problem is safety for her the odds are probably the same with those who do post. Some members who were long time posters were people with questionable or unsafe practices. I would give a general answer without giving the kind details that might impose improper expectations on the lady no matter if I knew the guy or not.

Cheers,

Merlot

 

[jacep]

i ignor them but not only masage place but any quesion partcular to any lady i scene. sory for those peopel with 0 posts. even if they have low post count, i look at wat histry was used for postd before i reply.

i did get a few asking me abut recent revus or aditional info sometimes wat i consider to be prvate that i mite not provide in revu. depending on question, i will evaluate it before reply but 0 post for me genraly automaticly means no rply from me... sory.

i allso sometimes get pm from some handel saying their lady that i scene in pass. unless there is some information not in my revu or the handel wasnt use to set up apointment, i am genraly careful.

 

[wolfie7]

Depends right? To each MERBite his own preferences.

Personally, if you have no review history, I ignore. If you do, and I like your reviews and MERB personality, I share. If I've actually met you in real life and like you, which up until a month ago was only one person, and after VIP-1 thanks to Iggy, is now more, I will share in earnest. But even then, only so much, per feedback earlier this year and my own quirks - I do leave out a few details and keep those only for myself. I can be a selfish bastard.

Otherwise, those PMs are weird. Like random people trying to friend you on Facebook or LinkedIn. Ummmmm, no. If you don't contribute to the community, you don't deserve any additional information beyond what's publicly posted. :nono:

(And hahaha, I want to point out I'm not a hypocrite as a longtime MERB lurker. I felt/feel the same way as a sender of PMs.)

 

[hungry101]

When I get a PM it is usually from someone that I have exchanged info with in the past. I am always willing to help others as I would wish to be helped. I also like to help get newbies started so that they do not get taken. I do check their posting history and the types of posts they make and the last time they were active. I don't have a problem with newbies as much as I have a problem with long time lurkers that do not contibute. The worst kind is the guy that has been around several years and has 25-50 posts and they are all questions.

Recently I had recieved suspicious PMs. I either ignore them or turn them into the MOD. I recived one PM from someone posing as an SP trying to lure me to meet them. I had a hunch who it was. I turned the post in and the imposter was banned. Now, all suspicous posts are ignored and if you have no history I will not reply.

 

[P. Gabriel]

Actually, the reason I started this thread is because the question was from someone who is a member since many years and has 0 posts.

I don't review often but always answer the ones I read and contribute.

 

[Doggyluver]

I get these PM's on occasion and will check to see if the individual is a reviewer or a lurker. In the latter case I delete and ignore. When I started on the board I was slapped around by members for not contributing, I learned and began to post reviews. The newbies or non reviewers on the board have to learn the same thing.

 

[master_bates]

I wouldnt reply either

 

[jacep]

i just wantd to ad wat i write above & that is if person has allots of posts but allmost no revues or revues simlar to had great time with lady without any details, i genraly ignore those as well so it isnt just neubies. i will evaluate person asking me questin b4 replying or deleting.

 

[Doggyluver]

PM's from members with 0 or almost no posts ?

Call me suspicious but over the past few weeks I have received a number of PM's asking about my experiences with various SP's. I have always been more than generous answering PM's but for those of you who have NEVER contributed to the board I will not reply, your messages are deleted. I would be curious to know if other members are also receiving these types of messages as well and if so, what is your policy with them. I sometimes wonder if there are members of the LE out there trolling for info

 

[jacep]

like i sayd for me, i evaluasion all pm & if i recognize poster from get together, i will normaly reply. if person has low post count, no revues, & member for long time, i ignore/delete. if person has 0 posts, i delete alltogether. if person is new & has low post count but has a few revues, i will consider replying. allso if question is beter in revu tread (normaly they ask me abut experience with lady i revued), i will genraly ignore as well.

some peopel ignore my pm as well & even wen i met them in get together & i post revues & share toghts so i feel i am not obligated to rply to any/all pm & even poster with hi post count mite not be answerd.

get pms like was multihour rate discount or hourly rate x hours? did you get cim? sorry but those pms if not in my revu are beter ask in revu tread 4 me or others to answeer (unless masage place wich i understand y it isnt ask in revu tread)

 

[smuler]

I ignore them

I look at their history, to determine if an answer is worth my time

Best Regards

Smuler

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

I never reply without first reviewing the poster's history.

If he's a new member, I'll sometimes give him the benefit of the doubt, depending on the tone of his message.

If he's a long time member who has not contributed to the board, I'll ignore and delete.

If he's a contributing member, I'll take a look at his posting history to determine if he's someone with whom I want to share information about someone I like. That said, I almost never share explicit information with someone whom I do not know personally.

 

[Doggyluver]

Thanks for the input, I thought perhaps I was being a little harsh on new members but am glad some of you took the time to respond and have the same opinion.

 

[Merlot]

Hello gentlemen,

I don't see how having zero posts invalidates anyone as a legit member. Are we saying that despite having nearly 70,000 members only 200 to 300 members who post count. So 99% of members want to be private and keep their hobbying as much off of the radar as possible. I respect that. A better argument is whether all those who make the effort to post honest reviews should go the extra mile for those who choose not to contribute when they already have access to what we write. That's a very valid viewpoint in my opinion. But then, I would question all those who are making a big habit of hoarding/hiding information while being involved with this buddy to buddy backdoor stream of information.

For a very short time it seemed I was one of the few who had the new contact info on a very desirable lady many acted very anxious to meet. I didn't look at post counts or reputation. They were all legit guys so they all got what they asked for. That's the way I see it.

If he's a long time member who has not contributed to the board, I'll ignore and delete.

I'm far more comfortable helping a newbie who needs it than helping a long time poster with many posts who refuses to review openly and uses info as some kind of leverage.

Cheers,

Merlot

 

[Atlante 007]

I agree with that vision, I never thought about verifying the history of the member who is asking about certain SP. I was answering kindly except for weidr questions. From now on, I will check before giving any infos...

 

[chowzilla]

I received a couple PMs as well. I even replied to a first timer. I totally forgot the concept of this board being exclusive and I agree. I realize now that we all invested a lot into this hobby, why would we give our "valuable" feedback to a "scavenger" when they can easily do their own research like we all have done to get to where we are. As for me now... I won't reply anymore. Ty for making this thread

 

[frenchie]

What about helping the guy out and perhaps encourage them to participate with reviews. Some guys are just shy about reviews and just need an invitation to participate.

 

[smuler]

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Best Regards

Smuler