Am I changing or is the industry changing?

[Valentina Amante]

Sometimes clients want the booking to be purely sexual, sometimes they want connection and companionship. I think people are realizing that sex workers are human beings with personalities and interests etc.

I think a lot of women in this industry need to be more cautious when screening and stop choosing clients based solely on how much money they wil make. Too many end up crossing their own boundaries just for the payout - seeing clients they don’t even like, entertaining them for years when they should’ve cut ties early on. That’s when the job starts feeling draining, and they grow resentful of the work they’re advertising - probably advertising for more social requests.

Personally, I never go into a session assuming a man doesn’t see me as a human being with a personality. But I get it - many women carry personal trauma that makes them wary, yet they’re in an industry where risk is built in.

This is a high-risk job—but the good news is, most men aren’t total assholes who think that way.

And that’s why some women shouldn’t even be in the industry. Many overlooked girls because of this arm candy stuff.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I’m not talking about high-end escorts - I mean anyone in this industry that advertises for that type of experience. This industry is already flooded with girls who think they can do this job but really can’t. The ones who lie about the services they offer, only to end up talking the whole time or wasting it on some social vibe. This isn’t a hangout. That’s what

One thing for sure hasn’t changed and that is: people want sex, and they’re going to look for it. However, these days, from a client’s perspective, it feels a lot more complex. Take LL for example which is the sameish concept as BP - now that’s real fast food - but it’s what people look for. Unfortunately it’s riddled with scammers so they resort to other websites or social media.

Say you’re a potential client who just wants strictly intimacy: If you’re picky and have a specific type, your chances are even slimmer to find the girl you’d like to book. You have to go through each girl’s restrictions, bios, booking processes, all of that. Add in this “new era” of escorting and you’re kind of underwhelmed with the whole process it takes - lots of girls want a minimum of 2H for the first time clients. Like how and why has this gotten so complicated? It shouldn’t be. The clients aren’t new here. It’s the girls. So it’s the girls changing this industry. Not the average Joe who is here because he’s thinking with his dick (like most guys do. Men are simple creatures of habit - they’re not gonna waste their time with this complicated stuff now)

I am also not saying that men don’t look for the dinner dates or social time either.
I’ve done the social stuff as well and it is actually very draining as you say. I’d rather be booked for 1H+ and chill naked instead of having underboob sweat in a musky speakeasy after defying Montreal traffic.

In a client’s POV, the whole point of Backpage was simplicity. I’m not on MERB, LL, or Tryst to find someone to take to the movies or play putt-putt. I’m there to pay for sex. Period. There’s other sites that are more of an “arrangement” type of meet that could be more suitable for the ladies that don’t wanna offer strictly intimacy.

I think there are girls who have a minimum of 2h and super high rates because they have another job and they are very low volume.. I couldn't do that because I would lose so much of my clientele and this is my main source of income. I don't blame these girls for anything personally. Guys can book whoever they want. It's cool if you like prefer certain types of bookings, and if others like some over others.

Obviously guys are looking to pay for sex, but a lot of them want companionship and connection on top of it. I have gotten purely social bookings before with guys who found me on these platforms.. I don't think I'm hurting or scamming anyone. We all have a different type of clientele and it's fine.

In my opinion the real culprit for why ppl are so frustrated is how bad the economy is and how advertising platforms are handling things..

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

My business has changed from more ''play'' oriented sessions (PSE, kinks, roleplays) to more intimacy oriented. I feel like after COVID people have felt so lonely they are looking for a service more human, ofc sex is awesome (!!) but my clients are more looking for a real connection, in-depth discussions and cuddles. I feel like my job could be rename romance worker rather than sex worker. Sex is now a more little percentage of what I offer. I really enjoy it.

But I do know I am quite privileged to have this experience in the industry. I did however saw a huge change before and after COVID. It wasnt like that before.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I think a lot of women in this industry need to be more cautious when screening and stop choosing clients based solely on how much money they wil make. Too many end up crossing their own boundaries just for the payout - seeing clients they don’t even like, entertaining them for years when they should’ve cut ties early on. That’s when the job starts feeling draining, and they grow resentful of the work they’re advertising - probably advertising for more social requests.

Personally, I never go into a session assuming a man doesn’t see me as a human being with a personality. But I get it - many women carry personal trauma that makes them wary, yet they’re in an industry where risk is built in.

This is a high-risk job—but the good news is, most men aren’t total assholes who think that way.

And that’s why some women shouldn’t even be in the industry. Many overlooked girls because of this arm candy stuff.

I think it's complicated. Obviously I think a lot of girls don't know what they're getting into when they join the industry and they basically think they will be paid just to be taken on lavish vacations and to fancy restaurant.. Particularly very young girls looking for sugar daddies who don't understand there's sex involved. I'm not one to judge how other women are doing their work.. This is customer service. Obviously, if I get the vibe a client doesn't see me as a human being, I'm not going to see him either. But the fact is, no matter what field you're in.. If you're offering a service, you will have clients you like and clients you like less.

I don't think people who advertise for social requests are resentful, they're just trying to get different opportunities and offering different services. I like most of my clients personally but I feel very lucky to be in that position.. Also it's not because clients book social dates that they are nicer. Some clients pay for 2-3h incall gfe and we have the best time together with a lot of conversations and laughter (and of course sexy time)

My business has changed from more ''play'' oriented sessions (PSE, kinks, roleplays) to more intimacy oriented. I feel like after COVID people have felt so lonely they are looking for a service more human, ofc sex is awesome (!!) but my clients are more looking for a real connection, in-depth discussions and cuddles. I feel like my job could be rename romance worker rather than sex worker. Sex is now a more little percentage of what I offer. I really enjoy it.

But I do know I am quite privileged to have this experience in the industry. I did however saw a huge change before and after COVID. It wasnt like that before.

That's how I feel about it too. And I'm not saying I don't spend time having sex with my clients because I do lol. I'm not ''avoiding work'' because I'm offering that connection and romantic aspect during bookings. I get all kinds of sessions, some are purely sexual, but I'd say a lot of the clients who book me really want conversations and intimacy.. They come back because of that, it works for them. I've had a lot of clients tell me that they didn't like when a SP put on a show and acted hyper sexual, they prefered to ease into it and feel like they are with a sweet fwb or girlfriend.

 

[Valentina Amante]

Obviously guys are looking to pay for sex, but a lot of them want companionship and connection on top of it. I have gotten purely social bookings before with guys who found me on these platforms.. I don't think I'm hurting or scamming anyone. We all have a different type of clientele and it's fine.

Of course! I’m not suggesting you’re scamming anyone. I actually think you’re really clear and considerate in your bio and with what you offer - however, you do offer intimacy - which is the fundamentals of why this site exists.

There are different types of companionship men look for, but the majority are seeking intimacy. So when every girl starts advertising on platforms like this saying she’d rather not be intimate ?? it kind of defeats the purpose. Honestly, those providers should consider creating their own space.

It’s like going to Canadian Tire expecting to buy tires, only to find out they only sell other car parts. It makes no sense - It’s confusing for the customer and clogs up the space for those who are actually here for what the platform is mostly used for. In the end it becomes false advertising.

Clients looking for a more social or platonic vibe can still find that here - but that’s THEIR personal choice they will request to a SP. It shouldn’t be something that EVERYONE has to wade through to find the kind of experience they’re actually looking for when this site is built for X purpose in the first place.