Here's another resource that somewhat quantifies risk by sex act:
https://www.catie.ca/safer-sex-guide/understanding-risk-by-sex-act
en français SVP:
https://www.catie.ca/fr/safer-sex-guide/comprendre-le-risque-selon-la-pratique-sexuelle
I got a fancy skull vodka with four skull shot glasses. so, shots for halloweeeeeen!
(yes, I've been known to buy alcohol for the bottle instead of the content, please don't judge me, I couldn't resist the skull shot glasses)
It probably has to do with the name you give them, and if you've read their page/profile you'll know you're dealing with a racist.
Since no one wants to be turned away at the door... so whether or not you fit nicely into a "category", most people will self select the fuck away from a racist.